Kate Talks About Depression and Suicide

I have recently been thinking about depression and suicide.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not depressed or contemplating suicide but I have been thinking about what it might feel like to be depressed and thinking about ending your life.  We probably all think about it at least once.  We all think that we could never be depressed or would never think about ending our lives but the people who are depressed and did end their life probably thought the same thing as you once before.  Reality sinks and we realise that this could really happen to us.  We should never think anything like that could happen to us because it really could.

A lot of us tend to say that we "feel depressed" after a bad day at school/work or after that guy turned us down.  We aren't clinically depressed but just feel a little sad and upset.  For people who are actually depressed, they usually don't express how they feel to other people.  They find some other way to "ease" the pain inside of them.  Recently I found out about a friend cutting themselves.  It was quite a shock seeing as though I didn't think the person was unhappy.  I read up online about self-harm and found that people who cut themselves because they are depressed don't tell anyone how they are feeling.  Everyday they put a mask on and pretend to be a person they are not.  A happy mask replaces their true feelings.  I'm glad though that my friend got help after it was found out she was harming herself.  Maybe if things had escalated further something much worse could have happened...

Suicide is a last resort.  It is the escape route chosen by some to end their misery.  It is an option I hope I never have to make in any situation that could arise.  My sister had a friend who committed suicide a few years ago.  His little sister is a year younger than me and would have been around 6 or 7 when this happened.  My sister was so shocked and distraught that something like this happened.  No one expected it to happen at all.  It shows that depression is a silent illness. 

My advice to any of you who know you are depressed or re contemplating suicide is that you should tell someone who you trust dearly about how you are feeling.  Ask them for advice and then have the courage to tell them you need help.  Ask them to support you in the help you get and I think things will hopefully get better from there on.  For more information visit;

http://www.allaboutdepression.com/

Remember, there is always someone who cares xo

Kate xo

Kate Talks About Insecurities

I had a big DMC (deep, meaningful conversation) today about being insecure about ourselves, being vain and being insecure around boys.  I mean come on, as a teenager everyone goes through that phase where you must look good around boys and be very flirty.  I'm going through that right now where everyone seems to be obsessed with boys and getting boyfriends.  I came to the conclusion today that boys are a waste of my energy and thought and that I'm not going to go around looking for a boy.  When the right guy comes along I'll know and be extremely happy about it but until then, I'm going to enjoy being a young, independent woman who values the time she has with her friends and family. 

A big problem nowadays with teenage girls and adults is that we must look good.  All the time.  We must never be seen without make-up and can only wear tracksuits in the solitary confinement of our homes or in the gym.  And even then at the gym we must try and look stylish if we can.  I even have to admit that I always try to look good but it's only because I like being stylish sometimes but I go out in tracksuits and Uggs all the time and don't give a sh*t what people think of me.  If I want to wear something comfortable, then hell yeah I'm going to.  The make-up and fashion industry is one of the biggest in the world and they survive because of women (and men too) who feel the need to be seen in stylish and expensive clothes.  They feel as if they're cheap and "lower-classed" if they wear cheaper clothes.  I wear clothes from a shop called Penneys (Primark for you UK people) and I think it is one the best shops going.  The clothes in there are great quality and look as good and sometimes even better than clothes you find in expensive shops.  The only time I spend a bit of money on clothes is if I fall in love with this item or if there is a special occasion coming up where I feel like feeling special and good looking.  Remember though guys, you don't need to spend hundreds of euro, dollars, pounds etc. on clothes just to impress other people.  If you want to buy that top for a tenner then you go and buy it!

Insecurities about our bodies are felt by everyone.  Like I mean everyone.  Ask anyone do they think they're stunning and have the perfect body and I can guarantee you they'll say no.  I openly admit I have insecurities about my body.  Whether it be I don't like my legs or my stomach or I don't think I'm pretty.  I have insecurities.  Some people might tell my otherwise but that doesn't mean they go away.  I don't go shouting about them on the rooftops or talk about them with my friends all day but they're still there.  Some girls take it overboard and talk about them all day just to be told otherwise and to get attention.  They want to receive compliments from people to make themselves feel better.  After a while most of them start to believe it and this is where people become vain and stuck-up about how beautiful and perfect they are.  I know this may not be your opinion but it is mine and this is what I think happens.  

People feel as if you have to be skinny or look like a supermodel to get a boy/girlfriend.  This is not the case at all.  In your teenage years this might be the case with some "hot" guys who know they are hot and don't want to ruin their appearance by being with an "ugly/fat" girl.  As people become more mature they start to look past all of this and realise you are never going to be happy if you only want a pretty/hot person.  Once they get to know someone they feel as if tey are the most beautiful person in the whole world and wouldn't care what they look like.  This is what people should be like all of their life.  Don't be upset because you can't get that hot guy or gorgeous girl.  Chances are they might not even be that nice.  

Remember you are beautiful because you are you!  Don't listen to the negativity around you.  If someone calls you fat or ugly don't listen to them.  Chances are they are insecure about themselves and are trying to make themselves feel better.  You are beautiful in every single way!