Kate Talks About Depression and Suicide

I have recently been thinking about depression and suicide.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not depressed or contemplating suicide but I have been thinking about what it might feel like to be depressed and thinking about ending your life.  We probably all think about it at least once.  We all think that we could never be depressed or would never think about ending our lives but the people who are depressed and did end their life probably thought the same thing as you once before.  Reality sinks and we realise that this could really happen to us.  We should never think anything like that could happen to us because it really could.

A lot of us tend to say that we "feel depressed" after a bad day at school/work or after that guy turned us down.  We aren't clinically depressed but just feel a little sad and upset.  For people who are actually depressed, they usually don't express how they feel to other people.  They find some other way to "ease" the pain inside of them.  Recently I found out about a friend cutting themselves.  It was quite a shock seeing as though I didn't think the person was unhappy.  I read up online about self-harm and found that people who cut themselves because they are depressed don't tell anyone how they are feeling.  Everyday they put a mask on and pretend to be a person they are not.  A happy mask replaces their true feelings.  I'm glad though that my friend got help after it was found out she was harming herself.  Maybe if things had escalated further something much worse could have happened...

Suicide is a last resort.  It is the escape route chosen by some to end their misery.  It is an option I hope I never have to make in any situation that could arise.  My sister had a friend who committed suicide a few years ago.  His little sister is a year younger than me and would have been around 6 or 7 when this happened.  My sister was so shocked and distraught that something like this happened.  No one expected it to happen at all.  It shows that depression is a silent illness. 

My advice to any of you who know you are depressed or re contemplating suicide is that you should tell someone who you trust dearly about how you are feeling.  Ask them for advice and then have the courage to tell them you need help.  Ask them to support you in the help you get and I think things will hopefully get better from there on.  For more information visit;

http://www.allaboutdepression.com/

Remember, there is always someone who cares xo

Kate xo

Kate Talks About Insecurities

I had a big DMC (deep, meaningful conversation) today about being insecure about ourselves, being vain and being insecure around boys.  I mean come on, as a teenager everyone goes through that phase where you must look good around boys and be very flirty.  I'm going through that right now where everyone seems to be obsessed with boys and getting boyfriends.  I came to the conclusion today that boys are a waste of my energy and thought and that I'm not going to go around looking for a boy.  When the right guy comes along I'll know and be extremely happy about it but until then, I'm going to enjoy being a young, independent woman who values the time she has with her friends and family. 

A big problem nowadays with teenage girls and adults is that we must look good.  All the time.  We must never be seen without make-up and can only wear tracksuits in the solitary confinement of our homes or in the gym.  And even then at the gym we must try and look stylish if we can.  I even have to admit that I always try to look good but it's only because I like being stylish sometimes but I go out in tracksuits and Uggs all the time and don't give a sh*t what people think of me.  If I want to wear something comfortable, then hell yeah I'm going to.  The make-up and fashion industry is one of the biggest in the world and they survive because of women (and men too) who feel the need to be seen in stylish and expensive clothes.  They feel as if they're cheap and "lower-classed" if they wear cheaper clothes.  I wear clothes from a shop called Penneys (Primark for you UK people) and I think it is one the best shops going.  The clothes in there are great quality and look as good and sometimes even better than clothes you find in expensive shops.  The only time I spend a bit of money on clothes is if I fall in love with this item or if there is a special occasion coming up where I feel like feeling special and good looking.  Remember though guys, you don't need to spend hundreds of euro, dollars, pounds etc. on clothes just to impress other people.  If you want to buy that top for a tenner then you go and buy it!

Insecurities about our bodies are felt by everyone.  Like I mean everyone.  Ask anyone do they think they're stunning and have the perfect body and I can guarantee you they'll say no.  I openly admit I have insecurities about my body.  Whether it be I don't like my legs or my stomach or I don't think I'm pretty.  I have insecurities.  Some people might tell my otherwise but that doesn't mean they go away.  I don't go shouting about them on the rooftops or talk about them with my friends all day but they're still there.  Some girls take it overboard and talk about them all day just to be told otherwise and to get attention.  They want to receive compliments from people to make themselves feel better.  After a while most of them start to believe it and this is where people become vain and stuck-up about how beautiful and perfect they are.  I know this may not be your opinion but it is mine and this is what I think happens.  

People feel as if you have to be skinny or look like a supermodel to get a boy/girlfriend.  This is not the case at all.  In your teenage years this might be the case with some "hot" guys who know they are hot and don't want to ruin their appearance by being with an "ugly/fat" girl.  As people become more mature they start to look past all of this and realise you are never going to be happy if you only want a pretty/hot person.  Once they get to know someone they feel as if tey are the most beautiful person in the whole world and wouldn't care what they look like.  This is what people should be like all of their life.  Don't be upset because you can't get that hot guy or gorgeous girl.  Chances are they might not even be that nice.  

Remember you are beautiful because you are you!  Don't listen to the negativity around you.  If someone calls you fat or ugly don't listen to them.  Chances are they are insecure about themselves and are trying to make themselves feel better.  You are beautiful in every single way!

Kate Talks About Stereotyping

Stereotyping.  Admit it, you do it all the time.  It's just something we do, it's part of human nature and no matter how much we're taught "Don't judge a book by its cover" we'll still judge people based on looks, age, race etc.  We judge a couple groups especially and even though not everyone will be what we think they are, we still judge them because they are part of a certain "group" of people.

Teenagers-  What comes to mind when you think of one?  Irresponsible, rowdy, trouble-makers.  That certainly is what it feels like.  As a teenager myself it feels that some people treat you with "caution" in case you cause any trouble especially security guards.  I feel that every time you walk into a public place with a group of your friends, the security guards are watching you like a hawk even though another group of people might be causing trouble.  I hate how some people stereotype teenagers because we're not all like that ok?  I myself never cause trouble and hate the thought of getting in trouble for messing in a public place.  I'm not a perfect teenager but I feel that I am quite responsible and there are many others like me who you wouldn't call your "typical" teenager.

People of Different Religions/ Races- Something I really hate is someone being stereotyped for being apart of a different religion or from a different country.  For example, I've seen people be very "wary" of muslims from the Middle East as they might be terrorists.  I find this sick because (a those people are probably very nice and b) would you like to be called a terrorist just because you come from Iran or Iraq?  Your answer is most likely no so don't say something about someone else if you wouldn't want it to be said about you.  Another thing is racism about people of different races.  I've also seen people say that a black person is obviously poor because they come from Africa.  I always confront people about this because it is such a horrible thing to say and it is very racist.  It is horrible to think that some people are still racist in this modern age and they can't get over a person because their skin is a different colour.

Groups/Genres of People (e.g Goths, Tomboys etc.)- You don't see it too much in Ireland where I live but we see it a lot in American schools where people where their own clothes and you see a sense of their style.  We seem to see these "groups" like the Band Geeks, the Goths, the Nerds and the Preps in their own little groups and people from other groups probably wouldn't talk to them because they stereotype them based on what group they're in and they don't let themselves get the chance to know them.  These groups also seem to be on a "popularity scale" and if you aren't a "cool" group people make fun of you and wouldn't dream of socializing with them.  I find this extremely annoying because people don't let themselves get to know other people because they aren't apart of a particular group they would be seen talking to.  

Those are just a few groups that would be stereotyped a lot and I find that people should stop doing this because they aren't letting themselves find out what a person is like because they stereotype them to be a certain type of person.  Remember everyone "Don't judge a book by its cover" which seems to be a suitable thing to say in a situation like this!

Kate

Sorry about not posting in a few days.  I've been really busy working in my old primary school and I just haven't had the time to think and write about something.  I'm too tired and my brain can't function if I'm tired! :L  New post coming now though! Hope you enjoy it :)
Kate

Kate Talks About Those Closest to You

In life the two main categories of people we interact with daily are our family and our friends.  They are our rocks.  Always there to comfort you when you're feeling down.  They are the people who make us feel special.  It doesn't mean that it's easy to be apart of a family or to keep friends.  We fight with them all of the time and these relationships come under strain which threatens to destroy them completely.  We always find though that (most of the time) we build the bridges, mend the cracks and repair those relationships which have been broken because we seem to find that we can't live our lives without family and friends.  We would be nothing without them.

Our family are the first people we know in this world.  They are the first relationships we have.  Our parents raise us, feed us and take care of us no matter how old we are.  I mean even a grown person loves a good old cuddle with their Mom right?  No doubt they are the people who we probably fight with most in the world and we always seem to say we "hate" our parents as they are being "unfair", "annoying" and "total bitches" but they are those things because they love us and don't want anything bad to happen to us.  They are only protecting us as much as they can in this big bad world.  I mean today I got into a fight with my Mum because she was snapping at me because I was in a bad mood.  I told her to "shut up" and "f*ck off" which I kind of wish I didn't say because that didn't get me anywhere good.  I hate seeing statuses on Facebook saying "Ughh I hate my parents they don't care about me" because a) your parents don't hate you and b) you shouldn't be ungrateful and mean to your parents after everything they've done for you.  We should all really try to get along with our parents as much as we can because you'll realize what you had when they're gone...

Friends are the other most important people in our lives.  We start making friends at a young age and they are the people we turn to when we want to talk about issues we'd rather not talk about with our parents.  We turn to them with our problems and we share the best times of our lives with them.  We wouldn't be very happy people if we didn't have our friends around us.  Could you imagine not having your best friends around you, jokingly insulting your sense of music and having takeaways on those depressing few days after a hard break-up?  I certainly know I couldn't!  We fight and bitch with our friends just like we do with our families.  There isn't a friendship in the world which hasn't had at least one fight.  It isn't a proper friendship in my opinion if you haven't fought over differences a few times.  It's funny looking back with your friends on those funny times when you were young, naive and fought over the stupidest things like fancying the same boy.  Remember everyone; Mates before Dates!  

The point of this is to make you think about all the relationships you have with your friends and family.  Value every single one of them and if you feel like you should make more of an effort with some people, go and make those changes because believe me, you'll regret not making that effort if you lost them!

Kate xo

Kate talks about.... MTV Movie Awards 2012!

On Sunday last, the 3rd of June, the 2012 MTV Movie Awards were held in LA and all of the big movie stars in the world gathered together for a more light and comical movie awards ceremony.  It was hosted by Russell Brand who I was only too happy to watch! :) Here are the winners of the bigger categories and my thoughts on them!

MOVIE OF THE YEAR: The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Part 1

Wasn't particularly pleased about this one as it wasn't a good movie in my opinion.  Harry Potter, The Hunger Games or even Bridesmaids should have won it because I enjoyed watching these movies more.  I feel as though people only vote for Twilight because of their "love" for Robert Pattinson and Taylor Lautner.  Don't get me wrong, I like these movies and I've read all of the books but out of them all, this was probably the worst one.

BEST FEMALE PERFORMANCE: Jennifer Lawrence- The Hunger Games

Was absolutely delighted when Jennifer won this as she is one of the most talented actresses in Hollywood and she is the perfect Katniss.  She portrayed her perfectly and no one else would have done it better!

BEST MALE PERFORMANCE: Josh Hutcherson- The Hunger Games

Again was very pleased with this as Josh is a great up and coming actor (even though he has been acting since he was nine) and his performance in the movie was great.  Even though he isn't physically what we imagined Peeta to be, he portrayed his emotions well :)

BEST KISS: Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart- The Twilight Saga Breaking Dawn Part 1

To be honest I really wanted either Jennifer Lawrence and Josh Hutcherson or Emma Watson and Rupert Grint to win this award because I am a huge fan of both The Hunger Games and Harry Potter but I have to admit, that kiss was pretty epic!

BEST CAST: Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 2- Daniel Radcliffe, Rupert Grint, Emma Watson, Ralph Fiennes and Tom Felton

Was absolutely DELIGHTED that they won best cast because this is probably the most well known cast of all time and they thoroughly deserved this after ten years of making these astounding movies!

BEST TRUE TRAILBLAZER: Emma Stone

I have to tell you I didn't know what a trailblazer was before this award but in this context I think (hopefully!) it means someone who keeps their fans guessing on what genre of movie they star in and someone who connects with the audience in their movies.  I think Emma is a worth winner of this award as she is a comedic yet serious actress who could star in just about anything and do it perfectly!  Well done Emma! :)

GENERATION AWARD: Johnny Depp

First of all I would just like to point out that Johnny Depp is my all-time favourite actor.  He is just so talented and can portray an array of different characters who are nothing alike but can own them and be them.  He isn't just an actor of one genre but many including comedic, serious, romantic etc.  He takes risks with all of his movies and stars in them because he is interested in the character and not because he thinks the audience might or might not like it.  This is why he has won the Generation Award and also because he has spent half of his life acting which has made a huge contribution to the movie world.  A deserving recipient and I couldn't be happier! 

OTHER WINNERS OF THE NIGHT:

BEST GUT-WRENCHING PERFORMANCE: Bridesmaids- Kristen Wiig, Maya Rudolph, Rose Byrne, Melissa McCarthy, Wendi McLendon-Covey and Ellie Kemper.

BEST FIGHT: Jennifer Lawrence & Josh Hutcherson vs. Alexander Ludwig- The Hunger Games.

BEST ON-SCREEN DIRTBAG: Jennifer Aniston- Horrible Bosses

BEST HERO: Daniel Radcliffe- Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 2

BEST HERO: Party Rock Anthem- LMFAO (21 Jump Street)

BREAKTHROUGH PERFORMANCE: Shailene Woodley- The Descendants

BEST COMEDIC PERFORMANCE: Melissa McCarthy- Bridesmaids

BEST ON-SCREEN TRANSFORMATION: Elizabeth Banks- The Hunger Games

Hey Guys! :) I'm Kate, a 14 year old girl from Dublin in Ireland!  I am a young girl with big dreams :)  I would love to become a journalist when I am older and I feel that writing a blog is a good way of "practising" if you know what I mean :L  My favourite subject in school, as you might have guessed, is English and I feel that my best areas in English are media studies and writing about the novels we have studied.  I completely understand that blogs do not become popular overnight and I promise to talk about something everyday if I can.  If you have read my blog and liked it, go and tell your friends as it would mean the world to me if I had a following of people!  I have a lot of free time at the moment as I am on holidays from school so I'll probably be on everyday or so!  I also have a tumblr account; http://www.tumblr.com/blog/katehannoxx <-- check it out and tell me what you think!  Well I don't have much more to say so keep coming back to see what I've posted! :)

Kate xo